Wednesday, May 8, 2013

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08/05/13 Wednesday

Early days in this foreign land shock when Nigerians address underlings with terse belittling. It still does. Call it an up the side of the head reminder of who’s boss and who’s not.  Mental note then as now: do not go there. But security guy Joe? He presses buttons. He’s wary of me after that late-for-work, hopping-the-fence episode. Last night this perpetually sweaty man keeps the generator running well past the shut-down hour. He’s been told when to turn off the gen by Collins and reminded twice more. But nothing seems to sink in. Grrrr. More frustratingly he keeps the gen running despite the fact that NEPA comes back on. I only realize this when I go looking for him after shut-down time has come and gone. What the…! How long has power been back on? What a foolish waste of fuel.

In this sub-Saharan country, hierarchical stratification thrives on socio-economic and academic status (and yes, white skin). Those disadvantaged or less fortunate by happenstance best buckle up and prepare for a lifelong ride of verbal abuse and mental humiliation. 

Is this a hangover from the decades of slave trading? Of times when tribes cruelly turned on neighbouring villagers for commercial exploit?  Human trafficking remains an ugly issue here. Every upper middle class household has “domestic help.” Typically these young women and men come from impoverished villages. They’re not paid. By being subjected to the lives of those with means, they’re meant to learn by example and to aspire for the same. Sometimes their families (read owners) will fund their education, if it pleases them. Christine and Tony, Ousman and Aishat all have house people. Tony’s person is a young girl of maybe ten or twelve. We’re told they’re family. I wonder.

I wonder too about people like security guy Joe, driver Umoh and compound keeper Collins.  I’ve heard them being “dissed” more times than I can count. Collins talks often about how he’s a human being with blood running through his body just like person X yet he’s treated without common courtesy. Where's the respect? 

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